If An Addict Is Not Ready To Get Help, Can You Do Something About It ?
You cannot force an addict to change or to take on treatment
Many addicts don’t believe that they even have a problem and most of the times the only way for an addict to seek treatment is when they themselves realize that they need help after a court order or if something medically happens to them and they cannot do it on their own, then they take on treatment or Rehab “Voluntarily”.
This does not mean that family or friends cannot bring the addict closer to that so called “Rock Bottom” for them to realize and acknowledge that the time has come and they should agree to go to a treatment program.
There are a few things that Family and friends can do.
Stop Enabling Them. Stop covering up for them. Stop taking the blame for their behaviors. Stop giving them money to feed their addiction. Stop giving them a safe shelter, the more you give them the more comfortable they feel that there is no problem and that they are not causing any harm since nobody confronts them. It could be difficult but in the end it could be the best thing that you have done for them.
Talk to the Immediate People Around the Addict. Its not only you that the addict takes advantage of its many other people around them too. So if you get all of the people around them on the same page, when you work together with others around them that also care about them and together you come to the agreement to do whatever it takes to help them in the right way then the addict will feel cornered to surrender.
Learn and Understand About Addiction. Understand and learn from Addiction Professionals what the disease of addiction is, Learn how and when to talk to the addict what to say or what not to say about their problems, Know some of the treatment or Rehab options there are available and Prepare yourself for when the day will come and the Addict will be ready to take your advice, you are ready to act upon that decision.
Discuss it with them at the Right Time. You cannot confront an addict while they are using. So plan this in advance to find the right time or the right place, for example, after an argument or a loss of a job or anything that is related directly to their addiction, that’s when it has the strongest impact and they have guilt and shame. But remember never to talk with them when they are using, only when they are sober and in a non-threatening place where you can express your true feelings and concerns and then offer your assistance.
Don’t be Judgmental be Specific and Direct. Be very specific about what their addiction means to you and what it has done to you and others around them.(when you use you forget… when you use you brake things, when you use you lose things….. ) without being judgmental, Be focused on what your goal is (getting them to treatment). Be specific with what you will do or not to do for them if they will not listen or take your advice. Don’t threaten them if your not prepared to back it up.
Be Fully Prepared. It is possible that after such a confrontation the addict will be ready and willing to go to treatment or willing to talk to a professional for help. Then you have to be prepared to be able to do whatever needs to be done to make it happen, taking care of their children, their job, their ride, their payments, This is a small window of opportunity that you have to catch fast and swift, So be well prepared.
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